If there’s one* thing I’ve learned in the last year, it’s how crucial it is to make time for yourself as a mother. *There are, in reality, hundreds of things I have learned. These include, but are not limited to, that I am not a good teacher, that skirting boards do not dust themselves and that children always need feeding. For the sake of my sanity, we will not discuss the fact that I am the only person in the house who has the power to see empty toilet rolls. (Imagine an eye-roll here, if you will)
But, eclipsing even the discovery that my skirting boards are not self-cleaning, my biggest learning experience has been how important it is to make time for yourself. Yes, even when you’re a mum! Scratch that! It’s imperative to make time for yourself. Especially if you’re a mum!
Why you need to make time for yourself mummy
- As the old adage goes, you can’t pour from an empty cup. We can’t look after others if we haven’t first taken care of ourselves. So, if looking after your children or your family are your priority, you need to acknowledge that this means looking after you too. If you don’t make time for yourself, to rest up and recharge you, you simply won’t be in the right place to look after them.
2. You can’t spin all the plates all the time. Hard though you might try, you can’t do everything all the time. I’m sure that, like super-mommas all over the world, you’ve spent most of your time since having kids doing all the things, all at the same time. And, yeah, it is eminently possible to do it for a while. But it’s not sustainable all of the time. You need to give yourself a break or, one day, you’ll break, along with all the plates you’re spinning!
3. What advice would you give a tired and frazzled friend? To a friend who has been taking on too much, saying yes to everyone and to everything?
You’d tell them to take a rest, say no, take some time for themselves. And that is the perfect advice for them. And, you know what? It’s also the perfect advice for you. So, go ahead, take a big long glug of your own medicine!
4. Because you’re worth it. (If you’re not swinging your hair like a l’Oreal model as you read this, please move away from the area. I don’t think we can be friends!)
You, my friend, are very valuable and you are worth looking after. And you need to show yourself that you are worth it, to treat yourself like the valuable commodity you are. You need to take time to lavish some attention on yourself….because you’re worth it.
5. So you’ve taken on board that you are a valuable commodity? Great! Give yourself a clap on the back.
And now show your family you’re worth it.
They need to see you for the valuable, precious woman that you are. And to see that their precious partner/wife/mother is worthy of some special time out herself. So don’t feel guilty about it. Take a break and make time for yourself.
6. Whether you’re a single mum, in a relationship, in a full-time job or a full-time homemaker, being a mum is overwhelming. Overwhelming and all-consuming. And, if you don’t schedule in some time to step away from being a mum, just a little bit of time, it can consume you. So make sure to press the pause button each day and make a little time for yourself.
7. As mums, we tend to be juggling so many things at once, wearing all the hats, carrying so much responsibility. Racing at breakneck speed to be everything to everyone. Hurtling around to make sure we get everything done right at the right time and in the right place.
But, you know what? While we’re rushing around so fast, we’re in danger of missing what’s happening right here, right now. But, if we can just pause the race, take a break, we can take a little breath of fresh air. And then, when we’re ready to join the race again, we can do it as more present mothers. Do it and savour what we have right here and right now. Give it a try!
8. Giving yourself a little time each day for yourself, to do something (or to do nothing, because that counts too!) will make you more rested and relaxed. Rested and relaxed and in a much better place to deal with whatever the trials and tribulations of the day will bring.
So, whether you’re dealing with little kids who aren’t sleeping properly, bigger kids who are answering back, refusing to do their homework or slamming the doors half off their hinges, you’ll need to be in the right frame of mind to deal with this.
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9. Show your kids by your actions that self-care is important.
If we want to bring up children who value the importance of looking after themselves and their own mental health, the best way is by modelling this ourselves. If your child sees that you make time for yourself as a mother, they’ll understand that this is an important part of life. An important part of being a healthy, satisfied and fulfilled person.
10. Anyone who gives themselves a break, even just a little break, will feel happier. And increased happiness is what we’re all after, surely!
11. A little bit of time taken for yourself each day to rest, to exercise, to relax, to stretch makes not only a happier, but also a healthier mummy.
Take some time to do some Pilates or Yoga and make yourself stretchier, bendier, stronger and healthier. All the better to run around after your kids and enjoy them to the maximum!
12. If you’re too busy when the kids are little to make time for yourself, what will happen when the kids are older?
They’ll become more independent, need you less and, one day, they’ll leave home.
And what will they leave behind? A great big, quiet, empty nest. And a sad mummy who’s not really sure what to do with herself.
So start doing things for yourself now. Make time for yourself. Get into the habit of doing things for you, and being you. Your future self will thank you.
We’re delighted that you have read this far because it means you’ve made the decision that you are worth focusing on. And we hope that you’ll press the pause button each day to make time for yourself. Because, yes, you’re a mother with a very important role to play. But you’re also you, and that’s very important too.
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